I am a 23-year-old dental student in Delhi NCR. I have a lot of self-doubt. I don’t know the reason behind this. Maybe it’s because I don’t dress that well. I don’t do makeup because I don’t want to, but it affects my day-to-day life. I don’t feel confident and often question my own thinking and appearance. What should I do to come out of this?
Self-doubt is often characterised by feelings of inadequacy and of just not being “good enough”. It sounds like that you are constantly second guessing yourself and feeling uncertain. This lack of confidence, as you describe it, could be arising from several factors, such as wanting to adhere to a prescribed norm or “fitting in”, the fear of falling short of others’ perceptions and the stuck belief that anything you do will be a failure. If you look at some of your doubts, there is a conflict in being yourself vs heeding the popular norm. For instance, you have chosen to not do makeup as you don’t wish to do it. Yet you don’t seem to back your own choice as you feel it affects your regular life. This results in you not feeling comfortable or confident with your own choice. One exercise that may help is what I call “celebrating the uniqueness in me”. Jot down all the things that you think are your shortcomings. Then, look at it from the lens of how these very factors actually lend to you being uniquely you.
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