I am going through a divorce. This is a rough phase of my life, probably the toughest. The worst thing that has happened to me is loss of concentration. I have become sceptical and am crippled by unnecessary fear. I am trying my best to keep my closest people calm and healthy. How can I cope?
A divorce can be a really trying time. Trying to keep people around you calm seems commendable but do remember that you are the one going through this and you need to care for yourself the most. Looking out for others might seem necessary or like a distraction, but it only takes away time and energy from your focus on living your best life. You might be internalising all that fear that your loved ones and society bring up, and it can manifest in several ways like you have described loss of concentration, trust and hope. Please know that the intensity of feelings, be it anger, sadness or pain, will ebb as you are able to see your own reality rather than what fear makes you think. Start with creating healthy routines for your- self that will keep you grounded and connected to yourself and people you care about and take one day at a time. Work with a separation counsellor or a support group for divorced people to give yourself more resources. Lastly, remember that being by yourself is generally a better option than being in a bad relationship.
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