Three years ago I met a girl and we become friends. Our friendship deepened day by day and we became best friends. After being with her for so many months I gradually started developing feelings for her and one day I proposed to her. She accepted but after a month we broke it off. The reason was that one of my friends also liked her and I didn’t like that. I doubted that she also liked him. It was somewhat true. But she also liked me. There started a conflict among us. Because of this she can’t concentrate on her studies. Her reputation is failing in front of her teachers. For her well-being I gave up, though she didn’t want me to. And from that very day I didn’t even look at her. Now the situation is better than before (for her). For more than a year I haven’t spoken a word to her. And because of this I feel lonely and the loneliness increases day by day. Now I am tired of this emptiness. I am dying day by day. Please help.
At the tender age of 16 you are going through sadness and depression: “I am dying day by day”, “I feel lonely”, “I am tired of this emptiness”. All this is happening because a girl, for whom you have “feelings”, likes you but also one of your friends and this has created a conflict between the three of you. Liking someone does not necessarily mean entering into an exclusive love relationship with that person, especially during the teenage. Friendship is built on trust and respect for each other. Your lack of experience has blinded you with jealousy and suspicion and you “haven’t spoken a word to her” for more than a year. You have also forgotten that there are many other important things that fill our lives with meaning and make it beautiful: don’t you have loving parents and other family members, loving friends, interesting studies and plans for the future; last but not least: faith in a loving God? Learn from this experience to control your feelings and not to expect an exclusive love from your friends.
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