I’m 14 years old. I had a friend who was a guy. We were very happy with our friendship but after some days I started liking him and now I love him even more. When I told him about my feelings, he started spreading this news in his friends’ circle and told them that I flirted with him. He hates me now and when he’s with his friends, abuses me even more. They think that I’m a flirt. I want to remove this misunderstanding from their minds and I want him back in my life. I really love him and can’t forget him.
My neighbour proposed to me a few days ago and I refused because we were best friends and I never thought anything else about him. But after my refusal he doesn’t even look at me and treats me as if he doesn’t know me. I don’t want to lose my friend.
In my building there is a boy who was a very good friend of mine. We were friends since I was 10 years old. Everything was normal till last year when he suddenly proposed to me. I too started liking him after his proposal, but I did not accept it because I felt that maintaining a secret relationship with him would be cheating my parents. I don’t know what to do.
At the beginning of the teenage, proposing to a good friend (“we were very happy with our friendship”, “we were best friends”) with the intention of changing the nature of the relationship into something more exclusive and possessive (“I love him even more”, “my neighbour proposed to me”) can create serious misunderstandings and even the breaking of the relationship. Your letters prove this point. The problem is that, at the age of 14 or 15, it is difficult to understand the difference between friendship, infatuation and true love. Do not be in a hurry to reveal your inner feelings to your friends, be patient and be satisfied with a free sharing of life as it happens in a good friendship. Time will help you understand your feelings and, if necessary, make new proposals.
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