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I’m a 15-year-old girl in Std X. I have a boyfriend who also studies in Std X but in a different section. We were in a relationship for 4½ months. Everything wasn’t good between us; we used to fight for small reasons. So I decided to break up with him. He casually accepted that break-up. We didn’t talk to each other for 1½ months. After that I realized that it was my fault and so I patched up with him. Now we are in a relationship but everything is not the same as before. We don’t talk daily as we used to do; he doesn’t care for me the same way he used to before break-up. It feels like our love is vanishing day by day. Sometimes I regret patching up. Besides this, there is a girl in his section who is playing the role of a “villain” in our story. Due to his changed behaviour, I’m not able to concentrate on my studies. What should I do?

Your relationship with that boy has been in trouble since the beginning: “Everything wasn’t good between us. We used to fight for small reasons”. After a break-up you restarted the relationship “but everything is not the same as before” and “it feels like our love is vanishing day by day”. You should ask yourselves what kind of relationship is going on between you two: is it friendship, infatuation or a love affair? At the age of 15 both of you lack experience and maturity in handling relationships and things are going from bad to worse. Both of you seem to be focused on oneself and fulfilling one’s own desires and imposing them on the other. True love makes people forget self and care for each other deeply. I suggest that you look at each other just as friends, not as lovers, respecting each other’s freedom. Concentrate on your studies and patiently grow in experience and maturity.

 

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A year ago, I met a girl who is elder to me and we became like brother and sister. Lately I thought I started loving her. But actually I was just missing her because I hadn’t spoken to her for a couple of months. But I realized this later. Before this I told a mutual friend that I loved that girl. And this friend told her that “your brother has now started loving you”! Today she is very angry and I don’t know what to do now. She is very close to my heart and I don’t want to lose her. But I made the mistake of confusing missing her for love. How can I regain her trust?

The relationship between brother and sister is a form of pure love. That’s what you felt towards that girl at the beginning. Lately you thought that a change had taken place in your heart and told that to a mutual friend who immediately told this matter to that girl. Your change of attitude and the fact that you revealed it to one of your friends has upset her and now she is very angry. As you made a mistake you should ask her for pardon, promising that it will not be repeated. It is up to her to forgive you or not. If she decides not to forgive, you will lose her. Learn the lesson and do not repeat the same mistake.

 

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I am 14 years old and think no one cares for me. I used to have a friend many years ago, but due to his father’s transfer he moved to another city. Now I have some friends but I think that they do not even care about my presence. I try to adjust to the situation and to enjoy my life, but still feel the same. What should I do?

You seem to be expecting a lot of attention and care from your friends, forgetting that friendship is a two-sided relationship of giving and taking. Are you giving to your friends the love and care that you are expecting from them? Are you always ready to help them in moments of need and forgive them if they make a mistake? If you do so they will love you and never leave you alone as you are feeling now.

 

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My sister, who is three years younger than me, is addicted to mobile phones. During her exams her cell phone was taken away from her to help her concentrate on her studies. But she has been a bit upset since then. Please help me to guide her.

Your sister, who is 15 years old, is addicted to mobile phones, as nowadays many teenagers are, neglecting more important things, for example their studies. Your parents have done well in taking her cell phone away during her exams. Do not worry if she is “a bit upset since then” because she has to learn to fix her priorities in life. Hopefully, in a few years time she will understand and thank you for teaching her a useful lesson.

 

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I love a boy and we have been in a relationship for the past two years. But now I feel he is cheating me. I don’t feel like talking to him. Whenever we talk we fight a lot. He has changed a lot and so have I. I want to save our relationship but there is no love left. What should I do?

From the tender age of 12 you have been in a relationship with a boy for the last two years and claim that you “love” him. Unfortunately, for unknown reasons, now you do not trust him and feel he is cheating you. Love is built on mutual trust, not on doubts. It seems you are not yet ready for a committed love relationship as you “don’t feel like talking to him” and “fight a lot” with each other. If you want to save your relationship, just look at each other as good friends, not as lovers. Friendship is a beautiful form of love which is not exclusive and respects each other’s freedom. It could happen that, in the course of time, this friendship may grow into a mature, committed love relationship.

 

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For the last 3 months I am in true love with a girl and she also loves me but we also want to study. Every time we sit down for study thoughts of each other come to our minds. We want to manage love and studies at the same time. How can we?

You and your girlfriend are unable to manage love and studies because thoughts of each other come to your minds and make you unable to concentrate on your studies. Remember that you are not living alone in society; are you forgetting your loving parents who support your education, other family members and good friends who care for you? If your love is really “true love” it should make you responsible and serious about your family, friends and studies. If this is not happening it means you are just infatuated with each other, which means you are experiencing an exclusive attraction towards each other that makes you unable to concentrate on anything else. I suggest that you begin your studies with a prayer to God for all the gifts given to you, asking Him to protect you and your dear ones. With God in your mind and heart you will be able to focus on your studies and other family duties.

 

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My girlfriend and I love each other so much that we cannot stay without each other for weeks or days. After I passed class X, I went to a different place and was staying in boarding and I could not talk to her for more than a month. During my holidays, I went to my hometown to meet her but she said that I didn’t like her anymore and so she got a new boyfriend. What should I do to get her back? I can’t stay without her and my study grades are going lower and lower. Please help me.

Being frequently physically close to each other is not necessarily a proof of love. Even husband and wife sometimes have to live separately because of work problems or other family problems. What matters is that their hearts should be united in an unbreakable bond. When you couldn’t meet her “for more than a month” she suspected that you “didn’t like her anymore and so she got a new boyfriend”. As she can happily stay without you, you should concentrate on your studies as your “grades are going lower and lower”. Obviously she was not in “love” with you. Respect her feelings and learn from this experience.

 

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I love a boy who is three years older than me. He is my friend’s cousin. He lives at a distant place due to further education. Till now we haven’t talked to each other. We had met each other 5 to 6 times till now. I love him very much. I don’t know what he thinks about me. I am mad for him. If I directly told him he will tell my friend’s mom and she will tell my mom. We are Facebook friends but we haven’t chatted with each other even once. It’s difficult for me to forget him. If I wait for him and he doesn’t come I’ll be deeply hurt. Should I wait for him, propose to him, or move on with my life?

You are deeply infatuated with a boy who is 3 years elder to you and with whom you never talked, though you are also Facebook friends. You “don’t know what he thinks about” you, yet you are “mad for him”. You are running too fast with your emotions and imagination and have built in your mind a relationship that does not exist. Stop dreaming and concentrate on your family, studies and good close friends whom you meet every day. The time for proposals and lifelong relationships has not yet come. Move on with your life and love dearly all your family members and good friends around you.

 

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I am 16 years old. I took your advice once. My story was that I fell in love with my cousin but I was confused whether it was infatuation or really love and you counselled me that it’s just a friendship among us. However, later on when I continued my friendship with him he came to know that I loved him but did not say that before because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. He said that it’s okay if I was in love with him but he couldn’t love me back because he had only respect and friendship for me and no feelings of love. I agreed with him. Now it’s been a year and we both are not in touch. I want to meet him. But there are some issues due to which I cannot meet him. I want your advice how can I remain his friend without hurting his feelings?

The boy already told you that “he has only respect and friendship” for you; therefore you cannot hurt his feelings by trying to “remain his friend”. He may not accept a love proposal as he told you that he has “no feelings of love” towards you. A good friendship is the best thing that can happen among teenagers; this is not the time for making firm and lifelong commitments. The problem is that “it’s been a year” and you “both are not in touch”. Maybe both of you are busy and cannot meet each other. A greeting card on the occasion of his birthday could be a good way to convey the message that you want to continue to be his good friend.

 

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I love someone in my class very much but I cannot tell her. I want to go and talk to her but I cannot do that. She talks to all my friends but she does not talk with me. She loves me but she cannot tell me. I feel that if I go and talk to her and tell her that I love her very much she will not be my friend any longer. What should I do?

That girl does not talk to you because you too are not able to talk to her and tell about your feelings. In your imagination you feel that “she also loves” you “but she cannot tell” you. If you do not have the courage to express your feelings it means you are not yet ready for such relationship. This is common at your age. She is presently your friend and you are afraid that if you tell her about your love she will not be your friend any longer. I suggest you enjoy the friendship with her as it is now and wait for some more time to mature your decisions for the future.

 

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Adventure tourism is all about taking the roads less travelled. Not only does adventure travelling involve exploring remote areas and a great degree of physical activity but also some measure of controlled risk. Mountaineering expeditions, trekking, paragliding, bungee jumping, rafting, scuba diving and rock climbing are the best-known examples of adventure tourism.

One can choose to work outdoors as an instructor or a tour leader or be a part of a managerial team. The marketing or managerial aspect of this job requires an MBA degree or a diploma in tourism. But people who are involved in the operational aspect (customer interface and all the outdoor work) require professional training in that sport. For example, a water sport would require you to have a certain level of competence as a swimmer. For mountaineering, you should be able to handle the ropes, quite literally. A high level of physical fitness is a basic prerequisite.

Though the job is both physically demanding and risky at times, it will definitely be the most exciting job imaginable. To make a successful instructor, you need to have a passion for the outdoors, courage, the ability to stay calm in critical situations and leadership qualities.

Job positions are available with numerous small or medium adventure tourism companies, wildlife parks or holiday resorts and mountain lodges. You could also exercise your entrepreneurial abilities and start an adventure tours operating company. Get in if you have the passion. It’s a highly rewarding career. So be a part of it!

 

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I am 15 years old and I have a great passion for acting. But I am very tense because it is very costly. But I’m not ready for any other career. What should I do to become an actor? Which acting class is best to join and where? And what steps I should take to become a successful actor?

If you believe you possess the ability to imagine, to relate to people and situations that exist in another mind, if you can project moods and emotions, if you can present a make-believe performance that may not be splendid but is convincing, then you could well take a swing at acting. A good memory is necessary in order to learn parts quickly along with the stamina to cope with arduous rehearsals, countless retakes and outdoor shoots.

One way to start off is to first undertake a suitable course at a good acting school. Get a portfolio done by a professional photographer and take a screen-test if possible to seek an unbiased professional opinion about your potential. While good looks are an asset, they are not everything. It’s your acting skills that really count.

Here are some of the institutes which offer courses in acting: Sri Aurobindo Institute of Mass Communication, New Delhi; The National School of Drama, New Delhi; Film & Television Institute of Tamil Nadu, Chennai.

But be cautious, don’t be impressed by a handful of actors who are famous and earn in crores. Most actors have a second part-time job just to pull them through. The actors have to deal with long strenuous rehearsals, temperamental individuals, touring opportunities, and many other aspects. Competition is tough and there is no job security.

 

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I am a first year student from Jaipur. As an alternative career option I wanted to pursue Digital Marketing. I wanted to know it scope and the available courses and institutes. Also enlighten me about the online courses available and their authenticity.

Digital Marketing is a booming career option today, making a strong impact in the world of Marketing and Advertising. Especially, the start-ups prefer going digital to market their brand, products and services.

It is a vast field with a variety of areas and segments such as Social media, Content writing, Email Marketing, SEO/SEM, Data Analysis, Designing, and much more. These managers are responsible for bringing together the different components of digital marketing together and make it efficient.

Here are some of the best-known companies that currently offer digital marketing courses in India: Digital Vidya; NIIT Digital Marketing; Manipal Global Education Services; SimpliLearn.com, Bangalore; All India Management Association, New Delhi, EduPristine.

 

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It’s my dream and the aim of my life to join ISRO; I am in Std XII and have opted for PCM + computer applications. I am an average student and got 84% in ICSC. What are the various career options in ISRO, the fields of engineering to get into ISRO and the requirements and colleges from which I can pursue these courses? Also what are the advantages of joining this stream?

Indian Space Research Organisation (ISRO) conducts a written test every year for final year engineering students of streams like electronics, electrical, computer science or mechanical engineering. On the basis of this exam, the selected applicants are then called for an interview which decides the final selection of candidates for the post of Scientist/Engineer SC. The other option is to join Indian Institute of Space Science and Technology, Thiruvananthapuram for B.Tech. (Aerospace Engineering/Avionics). Admission is through JEE. After completing the course all students are absorbed in ISRO.

 

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I’m a student of Std XI in the Humanities stream. I aim to join the Indian Foreign Service in the future. I’d like to know about the courses and colleges that I should go in for in order to pursue the same. I’m average in academics with an average percentage that ranges between 85 to 90%. My dream college continues to be St Stephen’s College, DU. But considering my percentage, I guess that is an option I shouldn’t be thinking of right now. In my understanding, an excellent college/university is mandatory to get into the field. Please guide.

Indian Foreign Service (IFS) officers are recruited through the combines Civil Services Examination administrated by the Union Public Service Commission. This examination has three stages – a preliminary exam, a main exam, and an interview – and is known for being extremely challenging. The entire selection process lasts 15 to 20 months.

Entry into the IFS is considered very difficult; the most applicants rank it and the Indian Administrative Service (IAS) as their top choices because of the high prestige, salary, and benefits that come with such positions. Eligibility is graduation (any stream) from any recognized college. So it is not about the college, rather about succeeding in this examination, which requires thorough preparation.

 

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