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My friends, Sam and Rahul, and I are in the same standard and are doing medical. Everything was going good but suddenly one day Sam came to know that Rahul is my boyfriend. He didn't talk to me for two weeks but then suddenly one day he proposed to me. And on the same day Rahul also proposed to me! I don't know what to do as it's a love triangle and they are both jealous of each other. I'm trapped. What should I do?

If you feel trapped by the jealousy and proposals of your two "boyfriends", get out of the trap as soon as possible. Tell them that, for the time being, you like them as good friends and not as boyfriends. Remind them that your medical studies require all your attention and dedication; this is not the time for a game of "love triangle". If they really love you they should prove their love by respecting your feelings and also each other. Tell them you are not impressed by their immature behaviour of jealousy and possessiveness.

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I was in a relationship with a guy whom I trusted a lot. He lied to me about everything while it was not the same from my side. He later on said that all we had between us was not to be taken seriously at all and that it was just a prank as a friend. I don't talk to him anymore but it is getting difficult for me to concentrate on anything else. I've tried my best to move on but it's useless. Please help!

I hope you will learn from this experience not to trust people too soon and too much. Your relationship with that boy was just an infatuation. True love grows in time and makes people responsible and faithful. The consequences for you now are: a broken relationship ("I don't talk to him anymore") and loss of concentration "on anything else". Infatuation makes people blind and unable to take the right decisions. Awake from your dreams and move on to the reality of your life.

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My best friend has broken our friendship. She was a very good friend of mine but now we don't talk to each other. Now I don't like to go to school and this has also affected my studies. She also tries to make me feel jealous that I'm alone and she has friends. If I talk to anyone she creates misunderstandings between us. Why is she doing this? Please help.

I don't know why your "best friend" has broken your friendship; you should have the courage to confront her and ask her why she is behaving like this. If you have made some mistake in dealing with her you can apologize. If not, try to find out the cause of her behaviour and clear any misunderstandings. If both of you have a good common friend, try to speak to her in the company of that friend who can help both of you to speak frankly. If a peaceful solution is not possible, it is better for you to choose someone else as your best friend.

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I am a boy studying in Std IX. My friends call me a girl. Though I'm not it still hurts me a lot. I'm too weak to fight with them. Because of this, my studies have been affected. Please help.

Teenagers can be cruel sometimes. Your friends' remarks hurt you a lot and are affecting your concentration on your studies. However, the more you show your hurt feelings, the more some of your friends may enjoy the fun. Try to ignore their remarks as if you do not care for what they say. There is no fun in taunting someone who doesn't care.

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I met a girl on Facebook; she was from another town and really was the most awesome girl I've ever met. We shared our feelings, our problems and everything I could think of. And then it happened; I started loving her and wanted to get closer but she started behaving strangely, ignoring me, not talking to me the way she did before. It was like she was going away from me as fast as she came. Finally we stopped talking and she stopped using Facebook. It's been a year and we haven't even exchanged a formal hello, but I'm still hoping that she'll come back. I check Facebook many times a day hoping that she's online. I miss her a lot. She's on my mind all the time and I can't concentrate on anything. Sometimes I think of moving on but I can't give up the hope that she'll come back. It seems like every day my love for her grows and it's killing me! I don't know what to do.

You met your dream girl on Facebook, a "most awesome girl" with whom you talked and shared everything. And then it happened that you started loving her and wanted to get closer. This was not what she wanted; she got upset with your attitude and decided to cut off this relationship. She wanted a friend, not a boyfriend! Your letter is a classical example of how many teenagers get quickly carried away by emotions and sexual attraction and call it "love" when actually it is just an infatuation. The consequences of an infatuation are well described by you: "she is in my mind all the time", "I can't concentrate on anything", "every day my love for her grows and it's killing me". Awake from your dreams, come back to reality and concentrate on your studies, family duties and good friendships.

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